In the next article in the series on the “miracle” and the “mind,” we will bring kindness and unkindness to the discussion about specialness. In A Course in Miracles (ACIM), kindness is associated with humility and learning and unkindness is by using arrogance and specialness. The miracle-minded obviously choose humility, learning and kindness this means they’ll eventually figure out how to forgive all specialness which is what maintains the separation from God. Belief in separation pertains to everyone who’s the One Son perceiving Himself as separate and different fragments. All unkindness stems from the anxiety in the mind whenever we repress our fear and guilt as opposed to forgiving our specialness desires. We blame and project it onto others that are really an integral part of us in reality.
You will find two books by Kenneth Wapnick on, “The Healing Power of Kindness.” Volume 1 is on, “Releasing Judgment” and Volume 2 on, “Forgiving Our Limitations.” I think, these should be required reading and continuing study for anyone who’s a serious Course student. The following passage says everything:
Once you put aside the brilliant metaphysics of A Course in Miracles and its sophisticated psychological insights, the Course could be pared down to 1 simple rule: Be kind. If you are not kind, then not only are you not practicing the Course, there is no way you can even begin to know it. Regardless of how brilliant your knowledge of its metaphysics might be, if you are not being kind toward someone else, you’re not doing what this Course is asking (The Healing Power of Kindness, Vol.1: Releasing Judgment by Kenneth Wapnick, p. 10, underline mine).
Regardless of this admonition, we insist on being unkind:
This inability to seriously practice A Course in Miracles’kind principles of forgiveness they study, and sometimes even teach, has perhaps been probably the most serious failing among its students. This book’s sequel, “Few Decide to Listen,” discusses how students often conceal their thought system of specialness under the guise of spiritual counseling or friendship. The lack of simple kindness is, unfortunately, unmistakable to all or any except the Course student making the spiritual pronouncements (The Message Of A Course in Miracles: All Are Called, p. 306).
The non-dualistic meaning of kindness cannot be understood here within the experience of dualism so long as specialness is continuously chosen since the ego originates from an unkind thought against God and Heaven. Our unwillingness to recognize this in regards to the ego, and what all that thought system is capable of accomplishing, is something which hinders our progress with the Course. We must be prepared to go through the ego with the Holy Spirit – the true Teacher – and take that darkness to Him for forgiveness. Nothing may be hidden and that’s straight from the Course.
Kindness To Others Is Kindness To Self
In his books on kindness, Mr. Wapnick also talks about the source of a person’s unkind behavior is exactly the same fear (and repressed guilt) that’s in our own mind and that’s what unites us. We also have exactly the same right-mind and exactly the same ability to choose between them. Choosing to be kind does not make us different or better; rather it means we’re willing to apply the “kind principles” of the Course so that we can learn to know everything it’s teaching. It’s merely a question of priority.
He continues to express that in learning just how to be kind towards others, we’re practicing being kind toward ourselves because, “you and your brother are one. They are an integral part of you. You are not different.” This goes straight to the heart of the ego’s thought system wherein the concept of difference is the way the ego began – God and His Son were separate and different – and undoes it. Even the slightest hint of specialness could be the ego. What he is saying becomes clear if you really study and practice the kind forgiveness of the Course!
A critical student of the Course wants to understand what this means. These students prefer to be a pleased learner with the only real true teacher – the Holy Spirit – as opposed to a spiritually special teacher of the ego in virtually any form a program in miracles.They are happy to master from Him just how to be free of the burdens associated with denying the Truth:
Forgiveness’kindness is obscure initially, because salvation is not understood, nor truly sought for (S-2.I.1). And here you will lay out the burden of denying truth. This is actually the burden that’s terrible, and not the truth (T-21-VI.7).
Self versus “self” -or- Identity versus “identity”
In the Course, there is a distinction between the “Self” which is our true Identity as Christ and the “self” identity with the ego. This can be a key point to know as the initial accepts the event God gave us through being God-created; nevertheless the latter is self-created and completely determined by the ego and its function of vengeance and maintaining separation. Everyone already believes they’re the ego. We wouldn’t be here otherwise. To take into account the possibly of the being correct and in need of correction restores hope to the mind because it points to the way out.
Each time a spiritually special Course teacher (a kind of unhealed healer) teaches specialness of the ego, they’re being unkind towards others and thus themselves although they’re highly unlikely to see it that way. They are also improbable to think it is kind for you to definitely have boundaries together because their fear and guilt (and anxiety) are very great. However, honestly looking at the planet, we see it is filled with the fragmented Sonship who’s anxiety-ridden from identifying with the ego self. Unkindness is rampant in the world as well as in the Course community. As Wapnick states though, we will not learn the Course until we choose to be kind.
Our behaviors would be the demonstration of which mind we’ve chosen (God or the ego). The ego is just a vengeful and tyrannical thought system of unkindnesses whereas freedom from it’s tied straight to kindness:
Without anxiety the mind is wholly kind (T-6.III.3).
Freedom cannot be learned by tyranny of all kinds (T-8.IV.7).
It can be unkind to change the Course and spiritual specialness does that through competition with God and thus everyone. One small change effectually changes the entirety of the Course, a total thought system. If you were to think you understand that, you don’t. Once you learn you do, you will automatically be kind for you understand the inherent value kindness plays in learning and understanding the Course. As Wapnick states, “It is a question of priority.”